You’re gonna find more than one dress that feels like “the one,” sorry!
Even a fun dress shopping appointment with zero drama can be emotionally exhausting.
Yes, you will have fun! But also, you are:
a) Making a major decision that you will presumably only make once,
b) While staying in your budget,
c) While making sure your friends and family feel included,
d) While being honest about your own feelings, but not so honest that you seem rude,
e) While dealing with a salesperson who really, really wants to sell you a dress.
Be kind to yourself! As any toddler can tell you, it's really easy to go from "I'm having fun!" to "I've climbed into the sewer, which is where all that screaming is coming from!" if you don't take care of your emotional needs.
You are not a failure if you go to a wedding dress shopping appointment and don't like anything there.
It's super common for bridal salons to create a "Let's find you the perfect dress!" environment — aka the "We will obviously be making a sale today, because whatever you need is surely in this store!" type of attitude. Plus, when you have an audience of loved ones, there's the pressure to perform — grandma didn't fly in from the North Pole just to see you shrug at tulle for seven hours.
But I promise, if you walk out with nothing, no one is going to be mad. It happens all the time. Just walk away.
You might not get ~Special Magical Feelings!~ when you put on the winning dress.
Just do it. Even if you get right back in afterwards.
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If you have 5 minutes: Read this piece about anxiety.
In this piece, 14 people with anxiety reveal what they were feeling behind the scenes:
"Often anxiety is illustrated by a grey-lit portrait of someone clutching their head in their hands or biting away at their fingernails with a nervous look on their face. In reality, a lot of people with an anxiety disorder look perfectly natural on the outside while dealing with their symptoms."
Maggy van Eijk
If you have 10 minutes: Dress like you mean it.
Whenever I'm down, or feeling unsure of myself, I dress like the best version of me. Lipstick, a giant silk shirt, tight jeans and high heeled boots. Sometimes faking it on the outside helps you feel a little better on the inside.
The first season of this mindfuck of a series wraps up this week, so catch up before there's spoilers everywhere. The story, based on a 1973 film by Michael Crichton, surrounds a Wild West themed park where visitors can roleplay with very lifelike robots – until the robots develop their own consciousness and get a handle on the years of abuse they've suffered at human hands. With a killer cast (Anthony Hopkins! Evan Rachel Wood! James Marsden! Ed Harris! That Brazilian guy with floppy hair from Love Actually!) and a really fascinating concept, binging it will 100% take you out of the here and now.